Joseph Seiler MCC
A Coach is a particular breed of trusted advisor. For starters the Coach does not 'advise'. No telling me what to do but rather helping me to see what it is that would be best for me to do. So, how is that of any help? We, all human beings, only see a part of ourselves fully. There is a kind of blind side that we don't see and it is from that side of us that choices that do not serve us are born. There are some things we both know about me, some that only you know and some that only I know. Then, we have some that neither of us know about the true complete me. The way to open that side is to share more of what I know about me with you. And, to invite you to tell me more of what you see about me that I don't seem to realize. Doing those two things expands what I know about me and thus shrinks that part that is not much seen.
The Coach is trained to hear between the lines and to challenge what I say about myself and about situations around me in order to open that part of me that I do not see well. It can, as an example, be as simple as my use of 'lingo' in my language. I speak with people and use all these acronyms and short forms and colloquialisms and... Many people do not understand and misunderstand and that undermines my ability to interact with people, clients, colleagues, everyone. If I could see what I am doing and come to choose to act/speak differently, I could become a lot more successful.
Ok, so you don't speak like the example. On the other hand, do you, or do you act in other ways that chip away at your ability to be successful.
How do you know it may be time to reach out to a Coach? There is usually a feeling of 'not quite satisfied' that sits in the gut or the back of the head or somewhere in the inner thoughts. Remember we are looking to open up and welcome the rest of you, the part you may not be fully aware of. Feeling a bit of disquiet?
Most Coaches will gladly provide a short conversation, and you'll probably know within minutes if this could work for you. Why not?