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Joseph Seiler MCC

/ Success Catalyst
Coaching is a 'beside' approach to helping you grow your success. Coaching is one with one. Other helping methodologies can often be one to one, In one to one the idea is that the helper knows and the one asking help does not, so the information passes one to the other one. The answer is provided, the one seeking is told. In one on one, there is a kind of competition like in playing basketball with just two people out on the driveway. Can be intense, definitely competitive, though in a friendly way most of the time. Yet, one on one has a winner and a loser. The competition can itself provide growth opportunities, yes, but don't we need something else in these times. One with one is 'beside'. We move down the basketball court together, passing back and forth. We set the one being Coached up for the perfect shot at the basket and applaud them the whole way. The Coach does not tell, only asks. They ask on behalf of the Coachee, questions that help them open their view of themselves. The one seeking support opens to new and positive possibilities, loves themselves more and sees success paths unseen before. Indeed, there are times when one to one and times when one on one, are great strategies. Coaching is one with one, when that is what is sought, hire a Coach.

Joseph Seiler MCC

/ Success Catalyst
Insight comes from inside of us, thus the word starts with 'in'. Insight is seeing within, seeing, or more correctly, sensing, the response to an external event or an internal thought. As we go about our days our minds are awash with prattle and mostly useless noise, not much truly deliberate thought. To access insight we need to quiet the mind. That, in turn means that we need to come to the present moment and be still. From this present moment place, we can listen to the intuition, the heart, the soul, the Universal subconscious mind, which is where all information is. Pause, exhale, release the prattle, let the mind be silent, listen from there. Insight is what is experienced in this state.

Joseph Seiler MCC

/ Success Catalyst
if you are asking about the grammar, I believe the 'know you will' option is grammatically correct. if you are asking about the appropriateness of either response, I feel that I need more background/context as the response can vary widely. If I may just offer one example, if the person is seeming to be warning me or asking permission I'd likely ask something like, "what do you wish to accomplish with your expression of anger?" Purposely a longer sentence to give the other person time to exhale. The idea behind my response is to help this person to see themselves more clearly so they can then choose next steps more clearly. All good Did you win your discussion?

Joseph Seiler MCC

/ Success Catalyst
What seems to work well is to simply name it. Yes, name the issue, the fears about it, the tries that failed up til now, the hope you have for a better solution, the faith you have in the present applicant/helper to suggest a better approach. Help them. Expressing doubt at the outset is not the best strategy. Ask about how it is they believe their solution will work and ask how you might be of help. go!

Joseph Seiler MCC

/ Success Catalyst
A Coach is a particular breed of trusted advisor. For starters the Coach does not 'advise'. No telling me what to do but rather helping me to see what it is that would be best for me to do. So, how is that of any help? We, all human beings, only see a part of ourselves fully. There is a kind of blind side that we don't see and it is from that side of us that choices that do not serve us are born. There are some things we both know about me, some that only you know and some that only I know. Then, we have some that neither of us know about the true complete me. The way to open that side is to share more of what I know about me with you. And, to invite you to tell me more of what you see about me that I don't seem to realize. Doing those two things expands what I know about me and thus shrinks that part that is not much seen. The Coach is trained to hear between the lines and to challenge what I say about myself and about situations around me in order to open that part of me that I do not see well. It can, as an example, be as simple as my use of 'lingo' in my language. I speak with people and use all these acronyms and short forms and colloquialisms and... Many people do not understand and misunderstand and that undermines my ability to interact with people, clients, colleagues, everyone. If I could see what I am doing and come to choose to act/speak differently, I could become a lot more successful. Ok, so you don't speak like the example. On the other hand, do you, or do you act in other ways that chip away at your ability to be successful. How do you know it may be time to reach out to a Coach? There is usually a feeling of 'not quite satisfied' that sits in the gut or the back of the head or somewhere in the inner thoughts. Remember we are looking to open up and welcome the rest of you, the part you may not be fully aware of. Feeling a bit of disquiet? Most Coaches will gladly provide a short conversation, and you'll probably know within minutes if this could work for you. Why not?

Joseph Seiler MCC

/ Success Catalyst
is this not bold faced advertising, providing zero to little helpful information? What am I missing?

Jason Horwitz

/ Business Sales Advisor
Online. Search and contact. Check off the list as you go. See whom you get a meaningful conversation out of. It will quickly become apparent to you who the good are and who the not so good are.